Bible Verses on Being Slow to Anger

Let's paint a picture.

You're texting a close friend and right in the middle of the best details, they disappear. The entire text thread led up to this very moment and there's no response. A few minutes turn into hours, and now you're starting to wonder what happened. If her phone died, surely it would be charged by now. Is a simple text saying you have to go, too much to ask for?

Before you know it, an entire narrative has been created based on anger. You're convinced you've been abandoned by your closest confidant. How could my friend do this to me? Then you get a phone call. Through tears, your friend shares the news about a loved one passing away and apologizes for her silence.

Now the guilt is setting in. The anger was real, but the story behind it was all fiction. Assumptions were made, and we even call people to back up the story we've created.

Imagine if accusing texts were made to the friend that disappeared.

I made this story up to illustrate how irrational anger clouds our judgement, causes unnecessary harm, and potentially damages relationships. All of the anger and hurt could've been avoided by simply remaining calm and avoiding assumptions. Asking questions is a quick way to resolve any assumptions one may have.

We're called to be slow to anger (James 1:19) and I'm sure you can see why. Whatever the Bible instructs is for our good. Below are additional verses that demonstrate the importance of being slow to anger.

A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. Proverbs 29:11

A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. Proverbs 15:18

Refrain from ager and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For those who are evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord will inherit the land. Psalm 37:8-9

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20

Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges the bosom. Ecclesiastes 7:9

Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. Proverbs 14:29

I hope this post serves as a gentle reminder to be slow to speak and slow to anger!

1 comment

  1. These are powerful reminders of the danger of entertaining anger. I’m a new mom and have been surprised and appalled with how angry I can get with my husband over small things when I’m sleep deprived or our son is having a hard day with teething or other discomfort. It’s been humbling to see that ugliness in myself but praise God that there is hope through his Spirit to help me battle against anger outbursts. And I praise him for a forgiving husband!