5 Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself

What we believe can impact every decision we make from our job to the friends we make. Unfortunately, some of us make decisions and view life through a lens of trauma. As we begin to unlearn harmful thoughts and behavioral patterns from the past, we can embrace the present. 

Let's start by unlearning these five lies. 

It Will Always Be This Way

If you've been in an uncomfortable position for a while, it may feel like things will never change. Don't believe this lie. At any moment, things can change for the better in ways you could never imagine. Take steps each day, even if they're baby steps, towards your goals, and eventually, all the hard work will pay off. 

"It might take a year, it might take a day, but whatever is meant to be will always find a way."

I Can Change Them

The only person you're responsible for is yourself. You cannot, and I repeat, cannot change anyone, even those closest to you. No matter how much you love and care for someone, they won't change simply because you want them too. We can have a positive influence, but when someone is fully ready to make a change, it will be when they are ready. 

I'll Do It Later

How many times have you told yourself the above statement, only to binge Netflix, scroll on IG, or take a nap? Every moment wasted is time you cannot get back. If it helps, think of time as money. Every minute wasted is a dollar down the drain. Do what you can with the time you have now because nothing is guaranteed, including more time. You'll thank yourself later!

It Doesn't Matter

There are so many reasons why we say this. We say this to keep the peace or because we don't want to be a bother. We might not want anyone to know just how much it matters to us. The reality is, you're hurting yourself and hiding who you truly are whenever you tell this lie. If something matters to you, speak up and be honest. Something as small as a preference for one restaurant over another to personal values makes up our unique character, and certainly matter. 

I Can Do This On My Own

We are designed to have relationships (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Quality relationships challenge, nurture, and comfort us in times of trouble. Friendships provide us with different perspectives and cheer us on to achieve our goals. They provide a shoulder to lean on and help us see our blind spots. The point is, we are better together!



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